A decision, and the words before it
Noor says she's done, and "so" lights up just before it. Look one line back and write three words: knees, an arrow, quit. That's a reason on the page in a few seconds.
Part 2 rarely asks what happened. It asks why someone did it, what they were hoping for and what a remark was really for, and the answer can come out several turns late. Four moves keep your pencil on the reason.
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When someone decides something, the words just before it usually say why. So every time you hear "so", "that's why" or "which is why", write the reason and the decision on one line with an arrow between them. Then keep listening, because people often give the easy reason first. Scroll through one conversation and watch each one light up.
Why it scores. These questions ask why a person acted and what they were after. A page of arrows answers that. A page of events doesn't.
Noor says she's done, and "so" lights up just before it. Look one line back and write three words: knees, an arrow, quit. That's a reason on the page in a few seconds.
Owen pushes back. Old friends do that, and it's your signal that the first reason may not last. Put a question mark beside it and leave the line open.
Noor gives in, turns after the decision, and "that's why" reaches all the way back to it. Redraw the arrow: Saturdays gone, then quit. The knees were the polite version.
Two reasons went by in one breath. The stairs explain why her mother is moving. The lost Saturdays explain why Noor quit. Keep each reason on the line of the decision it belongs to.
The question is spoken, and you see only the four answers. Each wrong one borrows something from the conversation. Only one sits at the end of the arrow you never had to take back.
Owen You've left the rowing club? After nine years?
Noor My knees aren't what they were, so I told them on Monday I'm done.
Owen Your knees got you up Mount Seymour in August.
Noor All right. Her stairs have got too much, so Mum's moving in with us in May. That's my Saturdays gone, and that's why I quit.
Why has Noor left the rowing club?
The line before the recording says who's talking. Write the relationship at the top of your pad, because it sets how much people can say out loud. Old friends show their annoyance. Neighbours and colleagues wrap it up. A boss who says "that's fine" usually means exactly that.
Why it scores. "How would you describe her response" and "what does he imply" turn on what the words are doing, and the relationship is your best clue to that.
"That's fine."
It's fine. She means it."Fine. Do what you want."
Annoyed, and doesn't hide it"No, no, that's fine, honestly."
Put out, and too polite to sayKeep one running list and start every note with the speaker's initial: "N quits rowing", "O doubts it". Two people are talking fast, and a letter costs less than deciding where on the page to write. When a job changes hands, strike the letter and write the other one above it, so the note never moves.
Why it scores. A wrong answer here is often something that really happens, given to the wrong person. A heard question leaves no time to work out from memory who said what.
AnaI'll phone the landlord.
TomI can pick up the bulbs.
AnaAnd I'll do the oven.
TomI'll sweep the balcony.
TomWith your wrist? Leave the oven to me.
AnaThanks. Then I'll fix the blind.
Who is going to clean the oven?
A speaker hands you details, and the right answer names what they add up to. Before you read the four answers, say the reason to yourself in three plain words. Then look for the choice that means that. A choice repeating a detail tells you what she said, not why she said it.
Why it scores. A question about motive is answered by a summing-up idea such as money, time or worry, which makes the details said out loud ready-made wrong answers.
"The van payment's due, Ravi needs braces, and the furnace guy's coming Thursday. You go without me."
Say it to yourself firstShe's out of money
Smaller than a move, and just as easy to forget on the day.
Nothing separates them, and there's no moment to tidy your notes. Leave your arrows readable the first time.
People lead with the polite one. When you hear either phrase, the reason that follows is the one to keep.
The real reason can come several turns late. An empty line under each decision gives it somewhere to go.
Some questions ask how a person responded. A quick smile or frown beside a note records it in a second.
The other person usually says the gist back: "So you're selling it?" Their answer is your second chance at what you missed.